Often we are quick to criticize or we hold in all our frustration from work in until we get home. We feel comfortable to vent or release the frustration that builds up from work or a boss or a customer.
When we get home from a rough day it does not take long for anyone in the home to say something that gets on your nerves and wow you release on them when they are innocent bystanders. If you know that you are tired and frustrated from work, stop at the front door and take a deep breath. You are entering your safe environment but that does not give you the right to take out your frustrations on them. Yet this is one of the main actions that becomes part of spousal abuse.
If you know that raising you voice quickly puts everyone in the home on alert, figure a way to relax for any conversation. Drinking or finding an out of the home outlet is no method to help. I have known co-workers who went to a friend's house to have sex before heading home so, "They can relax". Funny how they never take out their frustrations while in an affair. Yet when they get home and might be approached on the after work events the abuse is terrible. Most of of the time, if approached on such abuse, they will blame the spouse. Funny how people justify their abuse yet I know that experience first hand.
Stop taking advantage of your home environment but instead understand that you are going to be frustrated after a long day or events of the day. Work out with your partner a method that both of you can accept where you can unwind.
If the two of you can not talk calmly, get help from a professional. My recommendation is a mental professional and not a spiritual professional. One helps your mind think clearly and the other helps your soul to understand the grace, forgiveness, and love of the Creator who is passionately in Love with you.
NO more excuses - harness the abuse.
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