A few weeks ago I saw a sermon on women and heard that men and women are different. Duh! OK I agree fully that there are so many differences beyond the physical, mental, and emotional part of God's creations.
The point made in the sermon in the differences was that women have the "desire to be pursued". There were several illustrations given about Satan, Samson, and David being the pursuer as a man.
That has stuck with me because I disagree that this only applies to women. Women do have the desire to be pursued but men relish the concept of being desired and pursued. Women have the desire to build a relationship and men many times have the desire to fill a missing need in their lives. No it is not all sex but more of a desire to be appreciated.
Years ago I knew of men in my office who were excited to have a women in the office pay attention to them to talk, have lunch, or converse about a topic. The goal was not sex but to fill a gap they felt missing at home. Only the more they talked, the man would reveal his issues with his spouse and the woman would see an opportunity to build that relationship need and then rescue the man with comfort. Sex seemed to be a way to try and enhance that new relationship.
These "Office Affairs" are big drivers in marital issues because, instead of working on the relationship at home, even before they start, they run to a lawyer.
To every man reading this, do pursue your wife in weekly dating (one on one), setting time to be alone, and to remember to pursue her like you did when you were first dating.
To every woman reading this, pursue him, not with complaints, failures, and chores, but also plan a date, a vacation, or clothing just for him to see. It will be a great way for him to feel pursued.
Pursuit works both ways in a relationship, so put on your thinking cap and start pursuing each other tonight. You will reap bigger rewards and strengthen your relationship. Just remember this is not an event but a daily journey.
Now
GO PURSUE!
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